The Remote
BIG Talk

A live, interactive workshop for boys and their caregivers about the basics of puberty and reproduction

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Dr. Miller has presented in-person for boys and caregivers at the following San Diego institutions:

Talking With Pre-Teens and Teens About Sex

A vast majority of parents have long supported comprehensive, medically-accurate sexual health education for their children. And yet, despite this widespread public support, only 20 states mandate sexual health education within the school systems. This often leaves the sole burden of this crucial part of children’s education to caregivers, who may not have the comfort, skill set, or range of knowledge to teach their developing children.

The Remote BIG Talk aims to support parents in this journey by providing a positive sexual health education “launching point” for caregivers and their sons. It helps them have a common language together in their conversations moving forward. It helps educate boys about the basics of puberty and reproduction. And, it helps caregivers and sons feel more comfortable in talking about the wide range of topics associated with human sexuality, so they can then have ongoing talks throughout their development.

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Welcome to the Remote BIG Talk

The Remote BIG Talk is an interactive, 2.5-hour online workshop for 4th-6th grade boys and their caregivers that provides foundational, medically-accurate information on the basics of puberty and reproduction. The content of the online workshop is identical to the in-person BIG Talks conducted all across the San Diego area by Dr. Miller.

Topics and learning goals include:

  • defining puberty and understanding its purpose and process;
  • learning the physical, social, and emotional changes that accompany puberty and how to best manage them;
  • understanding reproductive anatomy and the science behind reproduction;
  • learning about pre-natal development and childbirth; and
  • understanding the similarities and differences between biological boys’ and biological girls’ puberty experiences.

The BIG Talk Curriculum:
(4th & 6th Grade)

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"As a mom of a teenage boy, an educator, and a former Dean of Students (6-12th graders), I can’t recommend Dr. Miller’s BIG Talk enough! Anyone who can get a group of boys who are on the cusp of or have started puberty to not only to listen to what he has to say, but to engage, ask questions, and fully participate is a magician! We thoroughly appreciated Dr. Miller’s knowledge, sensitivity, humor, openness, and willingness to address these important topics with our group. He provided the information to the boys and their parents in an easy-to-understand and compassionate way. We parents were all put at ease, and Dr. Miller really helped the boys feel that they were on this journey together. I know all the boys and parents were so appreciative of both the content and the way it was delivered. Dr. Miller’s BIG Talk is a MUST!”

Anna F. | San Diego, CA

“As a psychologist who specializes in sexual health, I know the importance of understanding and knowing our bodies as a psychologist who specialized in sexual health. As a mom of a teen boy, I appreciate that Dr. Miller is available to talk to our boys with their families present to model the importance of openly talking about the natural social, emotional, and physical changes that come with puberty. Dr. Miller naturally engages with his sense of humor, openness, and knowledge. He has an ease about him that makes the kids comfortable enough to ask questions and make comments. His work in this much-needed area is invaluable.”

Maribel B. Ph.D. | San Diego, CA

“I just wanted to follow up and let you know how pleased everyone was with Saturday’s BIG Talk. Some of the more skeptical dads walked away saying how impressed they were, and we all thought the kids seemed super engaged too. Thank you again for a great presentation and helping lay a foundation for all of us parents to work off of.”

Carlee G. | Mom of a 6th-grade boy

“Thank you, Dr. Miller. I really appreciated your talk and feel it was beyond important for our boys.”

Sherri | Mom of a 5th-grade boy

“Hi, Dr. Miller. A quick note to thank you again for the talk with the boys this morning. The way you managed the kids and kept them engaged the whole time was just very impressive! I had some follow-up discussions with my son that I couldn’t have had without this foundation of facts you articulated just in the right way for them.”

Raphael | Dad of a 5th-grade boy

“Our family really enjoyed your BIG Talk last weekend, and we have made several changes at home already as a result. My son really responded well to hearing the information from you…..thank you!”

Erin | Mom of a 5th-grade boy

“Thank you so much for The BIG Talk!! My son had some questions for me last night and clarifications from the talk that I was able to answer openly and in a straightforward way - it was SO awesome! It is also SUCH a relief to be able to discuss and share this info because of the foundation you built for us to navigate through this uncomfortable topic!! I will be reaching out in 2 years if not sooner (for my younger boy) to set up his BIG Talk!!”

Sunny | Mom a 6th-grade boy

“That was incredibly informative, spot on in fact! This information is power. It will really equip our sons. I appreciate that you delivered it in such a matter-of-fact (tangible) way. And all wrapped in a sense of kindness for oneself and others with the understanding that they are statistical miracles. Love this reminder! You’ve now given us a launching point to have further dialogue. Thank you!”

Kris | Parent of 5th-grade boy

The Remote BIG Talk

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The Remote BIG Talk (Feb 15th, 2025)

The Remote BIG Talk is an interactive 2.5-hour online workshop for 4th-6th grade boys and their caregivers that provides foundational, medically-accurate information on the basics of puberty and reproduction. The content of the online workshops is identical to the in-person BIG Talks conducted all across the San Diego area.
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Not sure yet? Register for the free, 45-minute pre-event workshop with Dr. Miller via Zoom. Click here to register.

The BIG Talk programs have educated and supported over 4000 boys and their caregivers.

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FREE WEBINAR | Feb 1, 2025 09:00 AM

Getting Ready for
The BIG Talk

This 45-minute, no-obligation free pre-event is a caregiver-only meeting designed to answer any questions about the Remote BIG Talk. Dr. Miller will also review program content and offer caregivers helpful strategies that allow for initiating and continuing healthy talks with their sons about puberty, sex/reproduction, and their own and others’ changing bodies. This event will be held approximately 3-4 weeks prior to the scheduled Remote BIG Talk. Click below to register for this unique opportunity to consult with Dr. Miller before the Remote BIG Talk, and a Zoom link will be emailed to you.

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How it Works:

Step 1

Register for the next Remote BIG Talk by clicking the button below. Not sure about registering? Then register for the free, 45-minute pre-event workshop with Dr. Miller, where he will review program content, provide helpful strategies for talking with your sons about puberty/reproduction, and answer questions.

Step 2

Look for two follow-up emails once you register: one providing you with the secure Zoom link to the event and the other from Dr. Miller providing you with handouts and instructions for the day of the event.

Step 3

On the date and time of the event, log on with your son from a quiet, comfortable, private location in your home with handouts and materials at the ready.

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"As a mom of a teenage boy, an educator, and a former Dean of Students (6-12th graders), I can’t recommend Dr. Miller’s BIG Talk enough! Anyone who can get a group of boys who are on the cusp of or have started puberty to not only to listen to what he has to say, but to engage, ask questions, and fully participate is a magician! We thoroughly appreciated Dr. Miller’s knowledge, sensitivity, humor, openness, and willingness to address these important topics with our group. He provided the information to the boys and their parents in an easy-to-understand and compassionate way. We parents were all put at ease, and Dr. Miller really helped the boys feel that they were on this journey together. I know all the boys and parents were so appreciative of both the content and the way it was delivered. Dr. Miller’s BIG Talk is a MUST!”

Anna F. | San Diego, CA

“As a psychologist who specializes in sexual health, I know the importance of understanding and knowing our bodies as a psychologist who specialized in sexual health. As a mom of a teen boy, I appreciate that Dr. Miller is available to talk to our boys with their families present to model the importance of openly talking about the natural social, emotional, and physical changes that come with puberty. Dr. Miller naturally engages with his sense of humor, openness, and knowledge. He has an ease about him that makes the kids comfortable enough to ask questions and make comments. His work in this much-needed area is invaluable.”

Maribel B. Ph.D. | San Diego, CA

“I just wanted to follow up and let you know how pleased everyone was with Saturday’s BIG Talk. Some of the more skeptical dads walked away saying how impressed they were, and we all thought the kids seemed super engaged too. Thank you again for a great presentation and helping lay a foundation for all of us parents to work off of.”

Carlee G. | Mom of a 6th-grade boy

“Thank you, Dr. Miller. I really appreciated your talk and feel it was beyond important for our boys.”

Sherri | Mom of a 5th-grade boy

“Hi, Dr. Miller. A quick note to thank you again for the talk with the boys this morning. The way you managed the kids and kept them engaged the whole time was just very impressive! I had some follow-up discussions with my son that I couldn’t have had without this foundation of facts you articulated just in the right way for them.”

Raphael | Dad of a 5th-grade boy

“Our family really enjoyed your BIG Talk last weekend, and we have made several changes at home already as a result. My son really responded well to hearing the information from you…..thank you!”

Erin | Mom of a 5th-grade boy

“Thank you so much for The BIG Talk!! My son had some questions for me last night and clarifications from the talk that I was able to answer openly and in a straightforward way - it was SO awesome! It is also SUCH a relief to be able to discuss and share this info because of the foundation you built for us to navigate through this uncomfortable topic!! I will be reaching out in 2 years if not sooner (for my younger boy) to set up his BIG Talk!!”

Sunny | Mom a 6th-grade boy

“That was incredibly informative, spot on in fact! This information is power. It will really equip our sons. I appreciate that you delivered it in such a matter-of-fact (tangible) way. And all wrapped in a sense of kindness for oneself and others with the understanding that they are statistical miracles. Love this reminder! You’ve now given us a launching point to have further dialogue. Thank you!”

Kris | Parent of 5th-grade boy

The Remote BIG Talk

The Next Event Starts in:

Day(s)

:

Hour(s)

:

Minute(s)

:

Second(s)

15

Feb

The Remote BIG Talk (Feb 15th, 2025)

The Remote BIG Talk is an interactive 2.5-hour online workshop for 4th-6th grade boys and their caregivers that provides foundational, medically-accurate information on the basics of puberty and reproduction. The content of the online workshops is identical to the in-person BIG Talks conducted all across the San Diego area.
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9am

GET STARTED

Not sure yet? Register for the free, 45-minute pre-event workshop with Dr. Miller via Zoom. Click here to register.

About the Facilitator

Dr. Christopher Miller has over 25 years of experience as a clinical psychologist and is the Founder and Director of BIG and the developer of The BIG Talk. He has educated thousands of boys and their caregivers about puberty and reproduction in both school and private settings. His primary role in conducting BIG Talks is to facilitate healthy and open communication between caregivers and sons about this important aspect of life. Dr. Miller provides medically-accurate facts for boys to learn but also emphasizes the importance of caregivers infusing these facts with their own personal values and perspectives. Learning the information is the first step for the boys, but they also need to know how to eventually make sex a safe, healthy, and sacred part of their lives. They will better accomplish this by having ongoing conversations with their caregivers throughout their youth, adolescence, and young adulthood, and Dr. Miller’s BIG Talk serves as a helpful launching point.

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Frequently Asked Questions

How often will Remote BIG Talks occur?
Initially, Remote BIG Talks will take place approximately once every quarter (i.e., three months). As demand increases, Remote BIG Talks will occur more frequently.
How often will Remote BIG Talks occur?
Initially, Remote BIG Talks will take place approximately once every quarter (i.e., three months). As demand increases, Remote BIG Talks will occur more frequently.
When will they usually occur?

Remote BIG Talks will always take place on weekends for the convenience of most families. The time of day for the talks will take into account the different time zones in which families reside and will be as convenient as possible for all participating families.

How do I get started?

Click the button on this page to register for the initial, free workshop to see if The Remote BIG Talk fits for you and your son. 

What exactly is covered in the first free workshop?

This pre-BIG Talk event gives Dr. Miller the opportunity to review content and answer any and all caregiver questions about the program. This will give parents/caregivers the chance to see if the Remote BIG Talk meets their needs. Dr. Miller will also introduce some basic do’s and don’ts regarding talking to your children about a range of topics related to puberty, sex, and reproduction. This pre-event lasts 45 minutes.

You are not obligated to register for the Remote BIG Talk before you attend this free workshop. You may sign up for the free workshop and then after , you can decide if the Remote BIG Talk is for you and your son.

Is there a content outline for the free workshop?

Click here for a content outline of this free pre-event workshop.

How long is the Remote BIG Talk?
From start to finish (including a break in the middle and Q&A at the end), the Remote BIG Talk will last about 3 hours.  There is a 15-20 minute break in the middle.
Where in my home should I be during the Remote BIG Talk?
It is recommended that you find a comfortable, private space in your home, away from distraction and other family members who are not attending the talk (like siblings).
What if a caregiver can’t attend? Can my son attend alone?

Unfortunately not.  The Remote BIG Talk is designed to have both caregiver and son attend together, not individually.

What if I register my family, but we then cannot attend?
We understand that issues can arise that prevent you and your son from attending your Remote BIG Talk.  If your family is unable to attend after registering, please contact us to request rescheduling to a future date.  Refunds are always provided, whether due to a last-minute issue or technological challenges/glitches.
Will we have to have our video and audio on during the presentation?
Choosing to have the video on is entirely up to you.  Your audio, however, will be silenced during the talk, so there’s no need to worry about being forced to participate via video or audio.
Will we have the opportunity to ask questions during the talk?
Yes.  You will be able to chat any questions or issues throughout the talk.
As an adult, can I attend the Remote BIG Talk without my child?
You cannot attend without your child.  Occasionally, educators/professionals or interested parents want to attend to see what is covered.  However, for the comfort level of all families attending, it is important that only caregiver/son dyads attend.
What do I need to have ready in preparation for the Remote BIG Talk?
There will be a few household props that you will bring to the talk.  Dr. Miller will also send handouts that you will print and bring to the event.  Other than that, you and your son simply need to bring your willingness to learn!
What exactly is covered in the free follow-up workshop?
This free follow-up event serves as another Q&A session for parents/caregivers and allows Dr. Miller more time to provide caregivers with skills and techniques that will help them continue to have ongoing conversations with their children about puberty and sex over time.  This event lasts 45 minutes.

A Zoom link for the free follow-up event will be emailed to caregivers after the Remote BIG Talk is completed.

Click here for a content outline of this free post-event workshop.

What if I can’t attend the free follow-up workshop? Can I still contact Dr. Miller directly with any questions?
Of course.  Dr. Miller will be available to contact via email or phone follow-up.
What does the Remote BIG Talk cost?
The cost is $75 per boy/parent/caregiver group.  For siblings, the cost is $125.
How do I pay?

There are several ways to pay:

  • Pay through credit card via Stripe. You will receive a link to the BIG Stripe payment page via email once you register for the Remote BIG Talk;
  • Send payment through Zelle (account number: 8584149332); or
  • Send a check made payable to “BIG” to 11300 Sorrento Valley Road (#106), San Diego, CA 92121
What if I can’t afford the regular fee? Is there a sliding scale?
There is.  Exclusion from the event due to inability to pay the full fee is not in keeping with the overarching goal of the program.  To discuss what you can afford, please contact Dr. Miller directly at boysinstitute@sbcglobal.net, and he will contact you to discuss what you can pay.

Ready to Get Started?
Register Today to Save Your Seat.

We are thrilled to have you join us for an educational, engaging, and interactive workshop from the comfort of your own home.

Please note a few reminders before you register:

  • Your son must have at least one parent/caregiver present to participate. If possible, having both caregivers present is ideal.
  • This is an online format via Zoom, so participation will require a laptop, desktop computer, cell phone, or tablet that has an internet connection.
  • Since this is a live workshop, your family must be able to attend on the date/time you select. There will not be any recording or playback of the Remote BIG Talk.

Please complete the fields below and submit your registration form.

Has your child received any formal sex education from his school?

Have you provided any information about puberty, reproduction to your son?